I get that question often and I think that most marriages can be saved if there are two people who are willing to work on it. I also believe that most marriages are worth saving simply because the problems are solvable. Research shows that the number one reason for divorce is lack of communication. Not physical abuse or addiction, but rather lack of communication. Surprising isn’t it?
Why not consider marriage therapy or counseling before divorce? Most people I talk with tell me that their hold up in coming to therapy to save their marriage is they don’t want to talk about their feelings or bring up past history over and over again.
Talking about the past or the same problems over and over again is difficult and most times unproductive. The answer to having a good therapy experience is to find a therapist who you click with and someone who shares your same goal. If you are looking for solutions in your marriage you might want to try a solution focused therapist.
A solution focused therapist really looks at your strengths as a couple. A solution focused therapist will help you to understand what you are doing right and how to do more of the same. While it is important to understand the dynamics of your relationship it is also just as important to move toward solutions rather than rehashing the same thing over and over.
At the centerofsolutions.net we practice brief, solution focused therapy. Whether you need one session, 3-4 sessions or you need someone every now and then to talk to about your marriage we are just a phone call away. We also offer couples evaluations. Each of you will log on and complete your evaluation separately and then we compile the information to see your strengths and weaknesses. The evaluation cuts to the chase and puts us on a treatment plan in the right direction for your marriage.
If you are looking for solutions in your marriage, give us a call at centerofsolutions.net We know what you want and we are here to help you get what you need.