I get this question so often and I know that most people think just like you are thinking right now. If we have to start out in counseling that could be a really bad sign. The answer to you is no you are not doomed already.
Premarital counseling is really about trying to find out where your strengths are so that you can rely on those strengths when things get tough. Premarital counseling, of course, is also about finding areas that need improvement.
When you find strengths in a relationship and you build on those further it will help you to survive the tough times. I think we all know that relationships have their share of tough times and knowing how to communicate better, knowing how to help your partner through the rough spots, and how to talk to your partner makes the tough times just a little bit easier.
There are also things you may find in premarital counseling that you just can’t agree on or find that you have very different opinions on. That doesn’t mean your relationship is “doomed.” It means that you have a choice to become a life partner with someone that you don’t necessarily see eye-to-eye with on some subjects, but you gain the skills on how to deal with the differences. Or, there have been occasions where there is just no compatibility and people have decided to seperate. These are people who have no similar interesst in life or their relationship and have no desire to work on it or find a better way for the relationship to survive. That happens very infrequently.
If you have interest in premarital counseling, take a look at centerofsolutions.net premarital counseling section. If you have questions, please feel free to email at firstname.lastname@example.org